Be available for your child

A few days ago, I walked in Saint-Valery-sur-Somme, very pretty medieval town near Abbeville. The weather was beautiful for a late September (one of the most beautiful days of summer for northerners actually!). So there was a lot of people who walked around with family, parents and young children in particular.

Well, listening with one ear while the discrete little world, I realized that some parents did not listen to their children. Some of them, the majority of them, struggled to want to tell them something, to show them something they were amazing, etc.. and they had no less than 5 or 10 "Papa! Dad! "Or" Mama! Mama! "To be heard.

At another point, a child on the beach seemed to have found the solution: he only played in the sand creating for himself his own little world with tunnels, monsters, battles while his parents were talking away without least look at him.

I do not know if I'm imagining things or if these situations are very exceptional, but I really feel there is more and more parents seem to compartmentalize their adult lives and their living relatives, somehow. It is almost as if to say: "This is not because I have a child that I will not continue to live as before.

I do not say they do not love their children, they do not care, far from it! They just seem to have much difficulty in entering the world of their children. Play with them, discuss things trivial, childish, do with them "childish" they do not seem at all obvious.

These types of parents regard their children as miniature adults and when they discuss with them, they prefer to talk about things "adults". Finally, when they take the time to also interact with them.

In fact, when I see children hoarse for five minutes before attracting the attention of their mom or their dad, I wonder if legitimate it always happens like that if these children are entitled to all the Attention parents, if they are listened to by them. I think, unfortunately, it must be commonplace.

This kind of behavior is dangerous because these children will eventually be silent and not to challenge their parents. They withdraw into themselves, they generate their own world, they create their imaginary companion with whom they can talk, speak, to whom they can entrust all their joys and their sorrows.

Certainly, at times, some parents want to walk calmly, serenely, and the flood of words of their children indisposing somewhat. They even end up by saying: "Shut up a little! Keep quiet! Go play later! Stop talking! . When you're tired, exhausted, it can be got to utter such words. This is not so dramatic - provided that this does not become routine.

Indeed, children, to build, require the attention of their parents. Sometimes they have something important to say. They may be concerned about an event that occurred at school, they may have made bad games, they may be afraid of something. And if you as parents, you do not listen, who will?

If they are left alone with their anxieties, who knows what will happen to them?

If you are a bit neglectful parents, make an effort, be available for your children, listen to them, hear them especially. Make the effort to return to their childhood world. Do not make fun of them if they ask you questions that seem to you adults, infantile, futile. Talk with them all. Do not you talk to them whether they are good or not. Ask them occasionally. Show them especially since they can have confidence in you, you'll always be there for them.

Thus, you will of them children happy, fulfilled, which bodes well for adults in their head and good about themselves.